Behind the Mask

In these times of uncertainty, sorrow, disillusion, seclusion and doubt we turn to one another for clarity, encouragement and a much needed break. I’m writing to ask you to consider the latter of that sentence. It is up to us to use the tools of communication that we are given with purpose and intent. We are failing to appropriate our language to the times we are living in.

You may have just assured yourself that you don’t fit into the category of those who cause harm because you don't say mean things online. You may have become defensive at the mere thought that you could be, although unknowingly, a stressor. You may have even scanned your personal profiles and nodded with approval as you scrolled through photos and comments of puppies and your children. While these are not harmful at their core, it is absolutely possible that those puppy posts fit into the category of lacking consideration.

​I am not trashing your puppy nor am I bashing the adoration you have for your family. On the contrary, I believe people should post content as they see fit. However, one must ere on the side of caution. That puppy post on May 25th (Murder of George Floyd due to police brutality) or the view of a hike posted sometime during the first week of April  (peak of COVID-19 deaths in single days in New York) most likely caused someone to feel a deep feeling of sorrow. Your posts, words and actions may be genuine while simultaneously triggering people to feel a deep sense of sorrow and resentment due to the stark contrast in their trying time.

Avoid Silence, Condone Acceptance & Unity

It may seem like I'm urging you to consider radio silence, but that couldn't be farther than the truth. Our words are important and can provide sanctity and serenity to our loved ones. My only advice would be to view every virtual communication as if it were happening in person. ​If you have been boosted with confidence in the last few months to voice your opinions because there is a screen between you and your audience, you are selfishly abusing your opportunity to speak to others virtually. 
​It is true that studies have shown that communication of any kind is healthier for your wellbeing than strict silence. There is a shortcoming in the study that needs to be recognized. Sure, speaking is preferred, but is it truly preferred if the interaction is riddled with insensitivity and uncharacteristically reactionary responses? 

Question First, Respond Later

1. Why am I posting? (Is it necessary, relevant, all-encompassing)     
2. Do I know the current events of the world around me?     
​3. Is what I’m putting out into the world meaningful?    
4. Are my comments, posts or reactions reflective of my thoughts?    
5. Would someone I don’t know find this offensive?

A Final Word

We have the ability to fill this world with knowledge, empowerment, love, understanding and care if we allow ourselves the time to take a breath before inserting ourselves into the lives of others. A simple focus on others and their possible pain can change the course of our actions. In this time, I ask all of you to be mindful of your surroundings, both near and far. I ask you to choose to be kind in scenarios where it’s easy not to be. Most importantly, I ask that you treat every person you stumble upon with compassion.

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Smile with sincerity.
Find comfort in knowing that your energy transfers.
Allow that energy to be filled with light.

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Lexie Brennan

Visual Art & Design enthusiast, friend and fellow virtual communicator.